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Tips for Surviving the Loneliness Epidemic

Did you know that loneliness can kill? According to the Department of Health – loneliness not only makes you sad, it can also make you sick. The loneliness epidemic was declared just recently by the Surgeon General, who urged citizens to improve the quality and quantity of their social connections. According to the advisory, prolonged loneliness can cause a greater risk of heart disease, dementia, stroke, anxiety, depression, and even premature death.

The solution? Well, Surgeon General Murthy suggests four basic tips to curing the loneliness epidemic – all of which we’ll discuss below, as well as one easy way to achieve them. With over 31 years of experience conquering loneliness – Events & Adventures knows how you can start living a life you love.

Tip #1 – Connect – “Answer a call from a friend.”

Murthy says that making a connection can be as simple as answering a phone call from a friend. And while that’s easy to achieve if you have friends who call you – what if you don’t anymore? Most people make new connections through shared activities like school, work, or hobbies. Other connections can be made through those friends, as well as from family members, and even random encounters. If you’ve exhausted those avenues and no one is calling your phone – consider joining a social club, an activity club – or any other kind of club! Sharing your mutual interests with other people is the best way to make long-lasting relationships, built on common ground. We know one particularly awesome club that’s been around for quite a while… maybe you should check them out!

Tip #2 – Share – “Invite someone over for dinner.”

In the same way that sharing your interests can help to build healthy relationships, so does sharing your time and space. Sometimes, all it takes is initiating an activity outside of planned events to spark a deeper friendship with both individuals and groups. Maybe it’s inviting someone over for a meal you prepared, or perhaps it’s just catching a movie together. Either way, make time for your relationships outside of regularly planned interactions. Sharing yourself with friends and loved ones can make a real difference in fighting back against the loneliness epidemic.

Tip #3 – Listen – “Be present during conversations.”

Ever hear that “just being there” is usually enough? It’s true! Our members say that we’re awesome listeners – always making time to hear their concerns and address them with sincerity. But that’s literally what friends are for! A friend in need is a friend indeed, and a loneliness epidemic is definitely a time of need. The problem is, people are often so consumed with their own lives and problems, that being a good listener is not as easy as it sounds. It requires putting yourself aside for a moment, or several moments, to be there for someone else. Still, it’s not all about them… When you truly and empathetically listen, your bond grows stronger than ever before. So, the next time someone opens up – listen up.

Tip #4 – Serve – “Seek out opportunities to serve others.”

Another popular saying is – “there’s no such thing as a selfless act.” The reasoning for this is – if you trace any action back to its root motivation – it was selfish in nature. For example, the only reason you gave a beggar all of your money was because it made you happy to help someone. Thus, even the most altruistic act can be self-serving. The fact is – whether selfish or selfless – doing something for someone else just feels good for everyone involved. Without being too spiritual or philosophical – when you put good into the universe, it tends to come back around to you. Plus, like we’ve said, serving others is essentially the same as serving yourself.

Bonus Tip – Unite – “Events & Adventures awaits”

Events & Adventures makes these four tips more attainable so you can battle the loneliness epidemic. Connect with thousands of our single members across 14 U.S. cities; share over 30 unique activities planned for members every single month; listen to stories from your new friends and forge deeper bonds; and lastly, serve yourself – as well as your new friends – just by being present with them at our events.

With over 31 years of bringing single people together – there’s no singles club that does it bigger – or better. Join us for bucket-list adventures and life-changing events where you can make connections and memories that will last you a lifetime. Some of our members have even fallen in love and gotten married! Remember, living alone doesn’t have to mean lonely. If you want to start living a life you love with single people just like you – get started today – with Events & Adventures.

Dating Trends to Avoid in 2023

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So many readers enjoyed our ghosting blog that we thought you might want more. Well, you got it! Today we’re exploring a list of dating-app trends to stay clear of in 2023. Hopefully by spreading awareness we can help more people notice telltale patterns and avoid any dating app tragedies. We’re sorry these “popular” trends are ruining the dating scene for many, but at least we can learn to understand them in order to mitigate their effects on our lives. Let’s dive in!


To kick off this list we thought we should start with what happens after you’ve been ghosted. And what do ghosts do? They haunt you! Haunting, like a bad horror movie, is when a ghoster pops up on social media – or anywhere they know you might be – without ever reaching out directly. It’s like they want you to know they still exist after ghosting you, but not for any particular reason. If you’re seeing them on your feed and they’re liking or making comments on your posts, it’s best to delete them from your lives. Ghosts should stay buried – or at least move on.


Speaking of moving on, we have to talk about zombieing. Of all the dating trends, this one is probably the strangest. Zombieing happens when someone you’ve previously dated suddenly resurfaces with a text or message, but it’s clear they haven’t changed much and still don’t want anything serious. Despite being more direct than haunting, it can be confusing and often leaves the other person feeling like they’ve been forgotten. Why do people do this then? We can’t honestly say. To avoid this, stay clear of “hey stranger” texts from people who randomly left you hanging last time.


Fizzling is one of the worst dating trends on this list… It’s an increasingly popular (or unpopular) dating app trend that shares many similarities with ghosting, but takes it a step further by making the breakup process even longer and more painful. The term ‘fizzling’ describes when someone begins to show less and less interest – without any apparent reason – before ending the communication. There’s no explanation, or resolution, it just takes longer to happen and feels worse once it does. Fizzling leads to ghosting, but not all ghosting is fizzling. If you ever went from excited, to confused, to worried, and then ghosted… you’ve actually been fizzled. When you notice this happening – get out before they fizzle out.


Breadcrumbing is when someone sends out a few flirtatious texts or messages but never follows through with their plans. They may be stringing you along for attention and it often leaves the other person in a state between feeling both anxious and rejected. Despite the confusion on your end, however, they likely know exactly why they’re doing it. Which brings us to the next of the dating trends… Benching.


If someone is breadcrumbing you, it’s likely because they’re trying to keep you on their bench as an option, but never actually plan to move the relationship forward. It’s like they are waiting for someone better to come along, and if no one does, then they’ll give you some more attention. Some benchers can have quite a roster lined up, using breadcrumbing as a technique to keep you on the line like a fish. Don’t be a fish. Unhook yourself as soon as you feel like you’ve picked up your last crumb.


Almost exactly like benching, the term cushioning refers to people who keep multiple matches in their back pocket (or on their bench) at once. The nuance here is that they aim to have several – not just one or two – serving as a “cushion” in case their primary relationship fails. It’s like having an insurance policy against heartbreak, but by using unsuspecting matches to do it. Of course, the person they’re currently dating is unaware of what their partner is up to, meaning that cushioning is very often cheating.


This is when someone brags about their accomplishments or success in order to impress potential partners. It’s like flexing their muscles in the hopes that it will attract more attention from potential love interests. Yes, this is much less damaging than most of these dating trends, but flexting is usually a sign of narcissistic tendencies or low self-esteem in other areas. If they’re telling you way more about themselves than you asked for in your first few interactions – they’re likely flexting you. There’s a big difference between meeting someone who is confident and sure of themselves, and meeting someone who is egotistical. Learn the difference to protect yourself.

In conclusion…

With terms like ghosting, haunting, and zombieing representing the ways people use online platforms, it might seem like dating is “dead”. We promise you – traditional dating culture is alive and well if you know where to look. In fact, waking up from these nightmare dating trends can be a lifechanging realization once you find the right dating style for you. We hope Events & Adventures is that style, but why don’t you check us out and see for yourself?

We’re an activity club for singles only, and we’re here to prove dating trends and apps aren’t all there is. We’ve been around for over 30 years, meaning we’ve been doing traditional dating before it was considered “traditional”. With us, you’ll check off bucket-list items, learn new things, see new places, and much more – all while meeting tons of single people across 14 cities. With over 30 events every month and zero pressure to attend any you don’t wish to – the choice is always yours. At Events & Adventures, the sky’s the limit for social interactions that can lead to long-term relationships. And if you aren’t looking for anyone, just come and enjoy the fun. Whether you’re seeking platonic friends with no ball-and-chain attached, or romantic partners to spend a lifetime with – they’re all here at Events & Adventures. Learn more, or get started today!

How to Avoid Getting Ghosted

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Ghosting is when someone suddenly stops responding to your messages – usually on a dating app –without any explanation as to why. It can be confusing and demoralizing to match with someone, invest time, and then watch them disappear into thin air. Sadly, ghosting is an all-too-common part of the dating experience today. In fact, the only consolation is knowing you’re definitely not alone! No, you can’t make people change, but you can learn ways to minimize how often ghosting occurs. In this blog post, we’ll look at how you can avoid getting ghosted and explore other ways to date where ghosting is much less prevalent. If you want to reclaim control of your dating life, keep reading.

Understand Why People Ghost

The first step to avoiding getting ghosted is understanding why people ghost in the first place. There’s no simple answer, but there are some common reasons. These include the fear of getting hurt, feeling overwhelmed by a new relationship, or simply wanting to avoid an uncomfortable situation. Sometimes, ghosting happens because the individual got whatever it is they wanted from their interaction with you and is now gone forever. It’s important to remember that getting ghosted doesn’t always mean you did something wrong, and sometimes there is nothing you could have done better. It usually has more to do with the other person’s emotional state – and nothing to do with you. In some cases, the dating profile may be a fake – there to sell something or scam you. Consider yourself lucky if you get ghosted by one of these catfish accounts – you dodged a bullet.

Ghosting can be looked at as a reflection of today’s dating culture. It’s easy enough to close a chat and never look back when there are zero consequences for doing so. The result is a lack of accountability. Fleeting relationships are becoming increasingly normal today. Some people are only on dating apps for ego boosts and “breadcrumbing” – another dating buzzword that means to flirt with someone while having no real intention of getting into a relationship. But that’s a blog topic for another day! A great way to avoid getting ghosted is to recognize the signs beforehand. With time and practice you’ll be able to filter out the obvious “ghosters” either before you swipe, or before you become too invested. For now, take mental notes about the illegitimate profiles you encounter so you can steer clear of them in the future.

Make Your Intentions Clear Early On

If more people were more upfront about their intentions, there would be fewer people getting ghosted. We know the world won’t change anytime soon, but in lieu of that, start setting a good example. If you let your new match know that you’re just looking for a long-term relationship and they ghost you – you win! Better to have it happen initially than later on when feelings have begun to develop. In the same way, if your intentions are for a more casual relationship – let the person know. You’ll be surprised how many people are looking for what you are, whatever that may be. A pro tip is to put this info in your profile’s biography. Yes, it’s true that very few people actually read them, but at least there’s a disclaimer before the conversation even begins.

Respect Boundaries and Read the Room

Dating is about getting to know someone, not about getting what you want from them. Respect your match’s boundaries and feelings, especially if you want them to be aware of yours. Like we said above, the only way to influence others is to be the version of yourself that you’d like to see in them. Get to know your match, find common ground and interests, and establish some boundaries before laying down expectations or asking for favors. If you’re patient, honest, and unassuming, you’ll likely find out if they’re looking for the same thing you are. Reading the room is key to avoiding getting ghosted, whether online or offline, so it’s a skill worth learning as soon as possible.

Don’t Overthink or Take it Personally

Overthinking rejection will only make things awkward and help you to develop low self-esteem. Why take something personally that has nothing to do with you? Following every one of these tips does not guarantee you won’t be ghosted, so simply accept that you only have limited control over what someone else wants. It’s literally not you, it’s them. We don’t know about you, but we have enough to worry about without internalizing someone else’s insecurities and inhibitions. Not overthinking may seem simple enough, but since no one intentionally does, it can be difficult to avoid. Basically, if you find yourself doing it – stop. And if you don’t realize on your own, a few supportive friends can help you to snap out of it.

Join a Singles Club for Support and Encouragement

Of course, we saved the best for last. While these tips can help you to deal with ghosting on dating apps, what about ditching the dating apps altogether? For those interested in a more traditional dating culture, or just making friends and enjoying life, Events & Adventures is a great option to leave ghosting behind. We can’t promise you’ll never end up getting ghosted again, but we can promise that our members are background checked and interviewed to ensure they’re single – and not the ghosting type. Our singles club has been bringing people together for over 30 years! We host at least 30 fun events every month, in over 14 cities. These events range from chill activities to bucket-list adventures and there is no pressure to date if you don’t want to. Just know that you’ll be in good company, with tons of single people who understand the frustrations of modern dating.  If you decide to stick to the dating apps, these tips will help. But if you want to start living a life you love with other singles, you can get started today. Our members are waiting to meet you.

Five Reasons Singles Clubs Are Better Than Dating Apps and Websites

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We live in the age of dating apps. Whether or not you are among the 79% of people aged 18 to 29 who choose to date online, it’s undeniable that online dating is a cultural phenomenon in 2023. However, there are those who still prefer more traditional methods and meeting people organically. While dating apps certainly have their advantages, there are also some compelling reasons why singles clubs are better options for those looking for love. Here are five reasons why singles clubs are better than dating apps and websites.

1. They Offer More Personal Interaction

One of the biggest advantages of singles clubs over dating apps is the personal interaction they provide. Unlike dating apps, where introductions are handled virtually, singles clubs provide an opportunity for members to meet face-to-face and get to know each other on a more personal level. This can help to build stronger connections and increase the chances of finding a compatible partner. Not everyone knows the latest norms when it comes to texting, and not everyone wants to. Having an alternative like a singles club can actually work wonders when combined with dating apps. Give yourself the personal interaction option.

2. There is a Greater Focus on Common Interests

Another advantage of singles clubs is that they tend to attract people with similar interests. Some clubs are themed after specific types of events, while others offer a myriad of options for singles to choose from. Whether it’s hiking, dancing, learning new things, or playing board games – singles clubs often allow members to explore a number of activities or interests. Naturally, this makes it easier for members to find like-minded individuals and form relationships over time based on shared interests. If your relationship’s foundation is built on a strong common ground, most other things fall into place.

3. Singles Clubs Can Take Away the Pressure

Dating apps can be overwhelming and stressful, with users constantly swiping through profiles and trying to make a good impression. In contrast, singles clubs provide a more relaxed and laid-back atmosphere. Once you join – you’re in – and members can take their time getting to know each other. Though we can’t speak for everyone, our members are very welcoming and love meeting new people. Meeting in groups at events can help to remove the pressure of making a good first impression. Everyone is there for the same reason, so focus on the fun!

4. You Get a Much Better Screening Process

Dating apps can be a breeding ground for fake profiles and catfishing scams. Singles clubs, on the other hand, often have a more rigorous screening process to ensure that members are genuine and have similar intentions. This creates a safer and more secure environment for meeting potential partners. Events & Adventures, for example, not only conducts background checks and interviews – we try to ensure that new members match with our existing ones and are compatible in terms of personality. This takes a lot of the guesswork out and surrounds members with likeminded singles.

5. There Are More Opportunities to Socialize

Finally, singles clubs provide more opportunities for socializing than dating apps. Whether it’s attending events or participating in group activities, singles clubs offer a chance to meet new people and build relationships in a fun and engaging way. This can be particularly beneficial for those who are shy or introverted and may struggle to meet people through traditional dating channels. While dating apps have certainly revolutionized the way we find love, they aren’t for everyone – especially the more timid or shy individuals. A big welcoming group and an epic adventure can really help to break the ice.

Get Started with Singles Clubs Today!

Events & Adventures is a singles club dedicated to bringing singles together in 14 cities across the U.S. We’ve been around for over 30 years and have been planning more than 30 activities every month ever since! Our friendly and seasoned team will walk you through every step of the process and be with you at events for a smooth introduction to how we roll. Find something for every night of the week on our monthly calendar of different activities – and that’s it! All you need to do is show up, meet fun single people, and have a blast. From exotic international getaways to chill bar crawls and dance classes – there’s something for everyone at Events & Adventures.

Have a chat with us today and see if our singles club is right for you.

Dating After Divorce in 2023

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Divorce sucks. Whether it was your choice, theirs, or a mutual decision, it just sucks. Despite how it might feel, however, divorce isn’t the end of the world. Getting out of a toxic or failed relationship is a good thing. It’s a new lease on life. It’s time you used it to start living a life you love and ticking off your bucket list with like-minded singles. Wondering how to do that? Events & Adventures can help! With over 30 years of experience managing events for singles of all kinds – recently divorced included – we have some tips!

The single climate in 2023

Dating in 2023 is difficult enough without being out of practice. The dating scene has likely changed quite a bit since you were last single, and you have probably made some changes yourself. Between the dating apps, websites, and hookup culture – it’s easy to become overwhelmed. Not everyone is a social butterfly and some people prefer more traditional methods than others. So, when it comes to meeting new people, we advise starting where you already have common ground. While dating apps and websites are responsible for many successful relationships, they’re not for everyone, and there are some things they just can’t do. Despite the fact that dating after divorce can be a bit of a learning curve, some things never change. These include the cardinal rules…

The Three Cardinal “Don’ts” of Dating After Divorce:

  • Don’t rush it – especially if you have kids.
    Divorce can push people to rebound and that’s perfectly natural. Nothing is wrong with reclaiming your confidence with a hookup or two. In fact, before you start looking for something serious, it’s better to find yourself again. Join a club, take a class, go on an adventure… Finding yourself again, after however many years of marriage, can really help you to find what you’re looking for. Plus, if you have kids, don’t waste their time with someone you’re not serious about. It’ll either confuse them if they’re young or embarrass you if they’re older. So, to recap, rule #1 is to focus on yourself. The rest will come to you.
  • Don’t dig up the past – focus on the future.
    No one likes to hear about someone else’s ex, especially the person you’re currently dating. If it’s a discussion that needs to happen – let it be brought up – never bring it up! And when it is the topic of conversation, be sure to keep it short and to the point. Aside from that, remember that everything you know about dating has led you to a divorce… Jokes aside, it just means it might be time to focus on the new you – the one who knows what they’re looking for.
  • Don’t get played – get up to speed.
    As previously mentioned, “the game” has likely changed quite a bit since you last played it. Maybe you never really “played” at all, and that’s ok too! This is your chance to get savvy with the new lingo and slang. Acquaint yourself with trends like “ghosting” and “catfishing” before you become a victim of either. Trust us – you’ll be glad you took the time to catch up to the trends before dating after divorce in 2023.

How to meet single people this year
It’s a new year. Are you going to spend it moping about your divorce, or doing things you’ve always wanted to do? We could go on forever about the best ways to get back on the proverbial horse after your divorce, but the best one is just too simple to keep hidden. It’s with us! Events & Adventures plans events solely for single people to meet up and have a great time together in organic and group-friendly ways. Our escapades range from chill activities like classes and bar crawls to epic skydiving and world-traveling adventures. There’s a screening process to hand-select the best singles to fit in with our members, a calendar stacked with 30-plus activities every single month, and nothing but good times to be had at our singles club. And the best part is – it isn’t a dating service! There’s no pressure to date if you’re recently divorced and just looking to make friends and/or experience new things. We do this for the thrills, the community, and the connections that last a lifetime. You don’t have to do your dating after divorce alone – do it with Events & Adventures! Get started today!

How to Survive Being Single on New Years Eve


Being single on New Years Eve is understandably a scary scenario for many people. Society has conditioned us to believe that we must have a special someone to smooch at the stroke of midnight or else our entire lives will implode. The truth of the matter is – if you need fireworks and champagne to feel a spark – you’re probably kissing the wrong person. Singles can have just as much fun without all the stress or pressure. There are two main ways to be single on New Years Eve and still have a great time. Option one would be to not participate in the celebration at all and pretend it’s just another day. You can do this solo or with like-minded others. Option two would be to do the celebration your way – single, but not lonely. Keep reading for tips on how to make either one work for you.

Option 1 – Just another day

Ever hear the adage – “ignorance is bliss”? Well, it certainly can be. If you are one of those people who can easily block out all the noise from firecrackers, music, and other people – do it! By the time you’re finished with whatever alternative activity you chose to do, it’ll be a new year and all the hullaballoos will be over. There are many ways to free yourself of the burden of New Years Eve expectations. Below are a few examples to give you an idea.

  1. Go on a trip

Somewhere else in the world isn’t celebrating New Year’s Eve yet, or they already have. Some places are almost a day ahead of the U.S. and others, like China, don’t celebrate it at all. Plus, if you spend New Years Eve traveling, it doesn’t really matter where you go. You’ll be busy during the celebrations and pleasantly distracted after. If you’ve been looking for a good excuse to do a solo adventure, this is a great one. Pick somewhere safe for lone travelers (or grab a single friend), secure your tickets, and focus on seeing someplace new.

  1. Get lost in a good story

Binge-watching a new series or reading an exciting book is an amazing way to leave the worries of the world behind. Delve deep into a show you’ve been meaning to watch or read yourself to sleep. Either way, you’ll be far too busy enjoying the narrative to worry about what other people are doing.

  1. Catch up on some ZZZs

Face it, you live a busy life and that’s part of why you’re single on New Years Eve. You’re always wishing you had more time to get more sleep and now you do. Use it! It’s even better if you have a day off after. Sleep in late. Your future self will thank you for starting this new year well-rested.

  1. Be productive and work on yourself

Instead of waiting for January 1 to begin achieving your new year’s resolution, why not start now? Nothing is holding you back from starting that new diet, stopping that old habit, or ticking off that bucket-list item. Prioritizing your self-growth is the best way to ensure you’re less lonely next year.

Option 2 – Celebrate your way

Just because people are brainwashed into believing there’s only one way to celebrate a new year doesn’t mean you can’t flip the script. Do New Years your way and have a blast while you’re at it. Here are some examples of how you can have a great time while single on New Years Eve.

  1. Go to a NYE Party

Does being single mean that you suddenly don’t know how to have fun anymore? Of course not! In fact – isn’t it the exact opposite? There are tons of parties and events happening across the nation. Find one, take some single friends with you, and go have a good time! It’s a no-brainer.

  1. Spend time with family

Friends come and go but family is forever. Okay, so not all families are the most fun to be around, but in more cases than not – it’s better than being alone. When you’re married with children, it gets harder to have shared celebrations like the holidays, so spend them with loved ones every chance you get.

  1. Throw a NYE Party

You’re probably not the only single person with nothing to do on New Years Eve. That’s why we’re writing this. Call up some friends, see what they’re doing and if enough want to hang out – organize a party of your own. Having a few friends over is a great way to take the edge off a stressful evening. It doesn’t even have to be NYE-themed. You can have an ironic party or just a regular hang out. It’s your party so the choice is yours!

  1. Join other singles at an event

This option may sound like going to a party, but trust us, it’s way better! Rather than going to a random place with random people, imagine being at an event specially designed for single people. A singles club is exactly that! If you don’t have single friends to call on, don’t want to go out alone, and aren’t able to choose Option 1 (and ignore everything) – this is the tip you’ve been waiting for. Join a singles club today!

Events & Adventures is a singles club that hosts over 30 activities every month in 14 cities across the United States. For over 30 New Years Eves, our singles clubs have brought quality singles together for fun and spectacular nights. Events & Adventures can help you fulfill several of the tips on this list – from planning and organizing international getaways, to throwing epic end-of-year events – we’ve got you covered. Get started today for a “single on New Years Eve” experience like no other, with single people just like you.

The “Single for the Holidays” Survival Guide

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year and you’re spending it alone? Blasphemy! But don’t worry, Events & Adventures is here for you with the gift of good advice. We’ve made a list of all the reasons why being single for the holidays doesn’t have to mean being lonely, and yes, we’ve checked it twice. Welcome to the E&A Holiday Survival Guide!

Take Advantage of Cuffing Season

Even if you’ve never heard of the term “cuffing season”, we’re sure you’ve noticed that as the months get colder, people get closer. The term is used to describe the age-old phenomenon of people seeking out significant others during the winter months. And while frigid weather could be blamed for the gathering of body heat – somehow – this also happens in places where it’s warm all-year-round. The effects of cuffing season can be attributed to a number of speculatory factors, but there is real science behind the occurrence, too. Studies have found that since shorter days produce less sunlight, serotonin levels can drop significantly during the winter months. That means there are single people out there who are feeling blue in the cold – or the heat – and searching for someone to balance it out. So yeah, you’re not alone in your search this season – and that’s a scientific fact!

Avoid the Dating Apps and Websites

We know it’s a massive temptation, but try to avoid the electronic dating this season. When you’re lonely and potentially desperate for a connection – you’ll even settle for a match. But matches can either ignite into something beautiful, or as is more often the case, burn out before it even gets lit. Even if you’re logged in and swiping on something a bit more serious than Tinder, you don’t want to be getting catfished or ghosted during the holidays. These are emotions you can simply do without. Focus on something a bit more wholesome – like yourself, your loved ones, or more organic dating. Of course, if random hookups are right up your alley, go for it! We’re not against what makes you happy, but our advice is that there are much better options out there, particularly during the holidays.

Be Social on Social Media

If you’re on social media you’ve probably noticed some of your peers dropping subtle hints that they’re single. Stories, statuses, and memes can flood your feed with insightful, if not annoying information about other people’s dating lives. With cuffing season in mind, and the obvious cries for attention, this is probably the best time to pull out the old: “hey stranger” opener. We’re not advocating for desperately spamming inboxes with cringy pickup lines – please, no – but if your longtime crush is single for the holidays… this is your best chance to try reconnecting.



Embrace the Benefits of Being Single

Do you hear the single bells ringing? Being single for the holidays isn’t all bad. While most of these tips are intended to help you find someone you can share this magical season with, that isn’t a necessity. The holidays are more about family and friends than significant others. In fact, significant others often get in the way. Splitting the holidays between two families is never as much fun. Being single puts you in a unique position to spend quality time with the people who matter most to you, and also provides the freedom to find more. Nothing is wrong with embracing the spirit of the holidays by sharing it with the loved ones already in your life. Plus, you never know, you might meet someone accidentally! There’s an unexplained attractiveness and confidence that comes with being single and proud. Sometimes you need to stop looking to find what you’ve been looking for.

Here are some other great benefits of being single for the holidays:

  • No expectations
  • No awkward family introductions (or questions)
  • Festive first dates for awesome “how I met your mother” stories
  • No mistletoe monogamy – flirt, date, and mingle with impunity
  • Freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want
  • Vacation attractions and bucket list activities are cheaper and less crowded
  • Your single friends need you as much as you need them

Hit Up Your Single Friends

That last point is a great segue into our next. You probably have a few single friends that you can make holiday plans with. If you’ve ever wanted to take a trip or try a more unorthodox vacation, now’s the time. This is the best opportunity to get out of the cold and travel somewhere that the weather’s warmer and the water’s bluer. Or, perhaps you’d like to start new holiday traditions with your closest single buddies. The sky’s the limit when it comes to what a group of single friends can get up to, trust us!

However, if you live alone, are recently divorced, and/or don’t have any close friends or family nearby – being single for the holidays is likely something you’re dreading. A lonely Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year’s Eve is something we wouldn’t wish on anyone – even introverts who typically enjoy being alone. It’s a time for sharing the gift of your presence and celebrating a whole new year of life. But don’t worry. If you don’t have any friends or family to call on – Events & Adventures has you more than covered this holiday season.

Join a Singles Social Club

Events & Adventures is a singles social club that is more about the community and the activities than the dating. Our members do find love, and often forge long-lasting relationships – even marriages, but that’s a side effect of organically meeting other members at social events. Our club has dozens of members in each of our 14 major cities across the United States and plan 30-plus fun activities every single month! Our members are all in the same boat – single for the holidays and looking for other singles to mingle with. Whether you take advantage of the cuffing season and couple up with a fellow skydiver, or meet some new friends at the local pub crawl, with Events & Adventures you’re never lonely. If this sounds like a great way to spend the holidays – contact us here and get started today!

How to Set Boundaries in Dating

boundaries in dating

You’ve probably heard it before – communication is key. When setting your boundaries in dating, it’s tough to establish ground rules without having a conversation. While it may seem scary to put your emotions on the table, it’s a worthwhile exercise when getting to know someone.

So, what are boundaries? Boundaries help us communicate our wants, needs, and issues we are having. This means that boundaries will vary from relationship to relationship. They could be physical, emotional, or even geographical. There are many types of boundaries, and that’s why a dialogue is necessary. Maybe you’re the type of person who likes to take things slow, so you decide to wait a certain amount of time before going on a vacation, or even moving in with someone. Or, the person you’re talking to may have a pre-existing concern from a past relationship. That’s something to listen to and consider when setting boundaries. Open communication about worries, hopes, and fears will lead to a healthier and happier relationship going forward.

When Do You Set Boundaries?

Maybe you haven’t met your significant other yet. That doesn’t mean it’s too early to set boundaries. Boundaries stem from your own attitude and character and contribute to the standards you expect in a relationship. Before you even meet someone, you may already have existing boundaries in place. This will help you avoid any awkwardness months or years into a relationship when you feel the need to put your foot down. The purpose of these limitations is to protect yourself, so it’s never too early to consider what’s off-limits. Setting boundaries early on puts you in an ideal position to meet someone compatible with your personality.

Which Boundaries Should You Consider?

The boundaries you set are a personal reflection of your character, but there are some common themes among dating limitations. You’ll want to consider how you prefer to communicate with someone, whether it’s over text, call, or face-to-face. Think about how much personal space you require or how often you expect a date night. When you get upset, how do you prefer to resolve a conflict? Finally, what is the level of commitment you expect from a partner? These are concepts to consider before you start dating someone, and while you continue to date them, too. And remember, if you look for a partner in a safe, secure environment, you may not have to consider too many rules with a well-suited and like-minded partner.

Listen Like Never Before

So, you’re ready to have the boundaries conversation. This is the time to get to know the person you’re seeing – and listen to what they have to say. It may be difficult for them to communicate their feelings, especially if it comes from a place of vulnerability. It’s important to let them speak without interrupting, and acknowledge that you hear them. While it’s imperative to listen, don’t be afraid to speak up. Starting the conversation is the hardest part, so once words are flowing, let the other person know how you feel. Remember, the most important aspect of this conversation is upholding respect for each other.

State Your Non-negotiables

When discussing boundaries, stick with your non-negotiables throughout the conversation. There’s a reason you decided a boundary is non-negotiable. If you’re having trouble finding a compromise, it’s okay to say “no” in this conversation.

Stay Open to Possibilities

While it’s beneficial to state your boundaries, remember that you don’t need to close the door on opportunities. If you decide to set too many boundaries in a relationship, it’s possible you may miss out on new experiences you may like. Stepping out of your comfort zone is like trying new foods. You never know if you’ll like something until you try it. When breaching your comfort zone, it’s okay to be uncomfortable, but the situation should not be intolerable and painful. Know your limits and trust your instincts.

Speaking of trying new things, you might feel ready to take a leap of faith and meet someone. You never know when you’ll bump into “the one.” Set yourself up for success and make the effort to put yourself out there. Participate in hobbies with a group, join a club, and say hello to strangers. We can help with that…

Time to Meet Someone New

If you’ve established boundaries and feel ready to meet someone, you might be wondering, “Where do I meet them?” In the digital age, many people flock to dating apps. But with the infinite number of people to swipe left or right on, it’s common to become accustomed to the plethora of options. With so many choices, people often lose interest almost instantly. They know other options exist, so coming across one flaw leads to endless swiping once again. There’s a better alternative.

While it may seem antiquated, we suggest meeting people the tried-and-true way. It’s time to put the devices away and spend time with local singles in person. At Events & Adventures, we do our best to make it easy for you. Don’t worry about flaky people you’ll need to set endless boundaries with. Meet up with singles at a pre-planned activity, ditching the arrangement and logistics. Everyone is screened to make your experience worry-free and enjoyable.

With over 30 unique events each month, you can choose to attend the activities that spark your interest. Chances are you’ll meet like-minded individuals there. From bar crawls and skydiving to wine tasting and cooking classes, we’ve got something you’ll love. It’s a no-pressure environment, with no expectation of dating or tying the knot — although many of our members have done so! If you’re ready to meet relatable singles in 14 cities across the U.S. and Canada, join Events & Adventures. Click here to learn how you can get started.

How to Meet People in a New City


Moving can be just as exciting as it is scary. Unfamiliar surroundings with no friends or family can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Making friends and finding a date is easier than you think. A new city means a whole new world of opportunities to explore, places to visit, and people to meet! This move is a good thing. It’s a fresh start and you’re going to make the most of it. If you’d like some tips on how to meet people in a new city, stick around as we discuss a few tried and true methods.

Say Yes to Work Friends

Depending on your profession, making friends at work isn’t always reliable, but it’s definitely a good common ground to meet new people. Most of your coworkers will be locals, meaning you can soak up the culture and get answers to important questions without having to ask strangers. If you prefer to keep your working life and recreational life separate, that’s fine too! You can make great new connections and network with acquaintances without getting too involved or personal. Get a feel for who your colleagues are, and if you are lucky enough to have likeable, friendly coworkers who invite you to hang out – go! Life is too short to miss out on good opportunities. Keep it professional, though. You don’t want to get an embarrassing nickname or something in your first few weeks. Work friends can become some of your best friends, and can potentially introduce you to even more.

Get Involved in Your Community

Making connections is often as easy as being present and positive. You don’t have to volunteer at a local shelter to get involved in your new community. Of course, you could do that, but we suggest you start by saying a daily good morning to the person across the hall, or in the corner store, or helping an elderly person with their groceries. People tend to remember a simple smile and kind deed. You’ll be surprised how far those things can go. One day, on your way home, after you’ve been called by name and waved at by a few familiar faces, you’ll realize you already have a place in the neighborhood and know quite a few people. Connections lead to more connections. Have a hobby? Consider looking up and joining local clubs and Facebook groups that you’re interested in. The most common way people meet others is by sharing an interest they have in common. That could mean anything from taking a class to becoming a regular at the local watering hole. Meeting others is a guaranteed bonus of simply doing whatever you already enjoy doing, but first you have to get out and do it. So, go get involved!

Leverage the Contacts You Do Have

We’re sure you’ve thought of this one, but maybe not all the way through. Before moving to the city, you probably scoured your brain and contact list for anyone you might know there. The fact that you’re looking for tips means you either didn’t have any, or you’re trying to meet a significant other – not find something platonic. Regardless – did you consider friends of friends? Just because you don’t know anyone in the city, doesn’t mean your friends don’t. Want to know how to meet people in a new city? Start by crowdsourcing new connections. Ask that college buddy who mentioned they have a cousin living where you are now. Okay, that’s a stretch, but you get the idea! Reach out and start networking your way to a contact list in your new location. Like we said before – connections make connections.

Avoid Dating Apps or Matchmakers

We can’t give you all the dos without any of the don’ts, so here’s some quick advice that some people learn the hard way. If you’re looking for a significant other to spend your time with, either because you already have friends where you are, or just because that’s what you want right now – don’t turn to the apps. Matchmakers are notoriously promiscuous, and even in a big city, you run the risk of encountering awkward situations. Trust us, nothing is worse than moving somewhere new, hooking up with someone random, and then finding out that they work in the same building – or go to your gym. This is just our advice, but try meeting people the organic way first. Get a feel for your new environment, and then you can think about hitting up the apps. If you still want to, that is…

Do Something Out of Your Comfort Zone

As far as we know, you only get one life – so why not live a life you love? Putting yourself out there is the only way to make new connections, so naturally, introverts have it the hardest. For the more shy or reserved folks, going beyond the community involvement tip is unthinkable – especially in a new place. But what if there was an organization that made all of the introductions and icebreakers a little bit more palatable? What if you could pick and choose only the events you wanted to go to, with up to 30 different kinds planned and organized every single month? Oh, and did we mention that this happens in 14 cities across the U.S. and Canada? Events & Adventures is a singles club where chill events like bar crawls, game nights, and hobby classes are organized every night of the week. But that’s not all. You can also go on wild adventures like skydiving, whitewater rafting, and bucket-list travel destinations.

The best part is, everyone is here to make new friends, do fun and exciting things that they mutually enjoy, and possibly – like many of our members have – find the one! If this sounds like something you’d like to be a part of, click here to learn more. And if you’re wondering where we’ve been all your life… join our singles club today! Whether you choose to use one, or all of these tips, we guarantee they’ll help you to start living a life you love. And, just in case you were wondering, that’s how to meet people in a new city.

Dating in Your 30s Doesn’t Have to Be Hard


You’re not alone if you feel like dating in your 30s is more of a job than an adventure. If finding a significant other was hard before, dating apps and social media have made it even harder. Nowadays, the dating scene is either hunting for hookups online or making third-date marriage proposals – there is no in-between. Everyone seems to know exactly what they’re looking for, yet somehow, no one can seem to find it. Except for your friends, of course. Everyone else in your life seems to be falling in love and posting about it on social media. Because of this, the dating pool seems even smaller now, so finding exactly what you’re searching for is that much more difficult. All this negativity is not exactly inspiring, but trust us, it’s not as bad as you think. In fact, it doesn’t have to be bad at all. Here are some positives about dating in your 30s that you only realize after leveling up.

30 is the New 20

Remember when being single was a good thing? In your 20s, single life used to be about going out and enjoying your freedom. Nowadays, you probably don’t go out half as often and wish you could just settle down with the right person instead of going on pointless dates. One way or the other, it’s safe to say that at 30, your perspective on being single is no longer the same. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be just as exciting or even more so. At 30, you may have a bit more back pain – and everywhere else pain – but you still feel (mentally) like you’re way younger. It doesn’t help when you feel like you just lost two years of dating time to quarantine during a global pandemic… The bright side is, now that you have a bit more experience, money in the bank, and a new perspective on life – you can do whatever you want! Acting your age is for old people. You could just as easily travel to Disney World, as around the world, and you can finally afford to. The only issue might be finding company to go with.

Your Priorities Have Changed for the Better

Dating in your 30s is like investing your money – it has to be worth it. One of the things about hitting level 30 is that you’ve gained enough experience to know yourself and what you want out of a partnership. Not just that, you’re not as willing to compromise on it. That’s a good thing. You’re growing up. Yes, there are times you might wonder if your standards are too high, or if you’re missing out on something, but that’s just FOMO and too much social media. The fact is, once you know what you want, and more importantly – what you need – it’s just not as easy to settle for less. And again, this is a great thing for you. Remember, you’re not the only one growing up and turning 30. This newfound clarity is not unique to you, and the dating pool is not as small as you may think. There are tons of single people in your age group looking for exactly what you are. The question is – how do you find them?

The Secret to Dating in Your 30s

Being single and being lonely are not mutually exclusive. After 30, however, many of your friends may already be married and are less available as a result. Those who aren’t married might be pursuing their career in another part of the world entirely. Maybe you’re recently divorced and didn’t keep in touch with your old friends as much. Whatever the cause for your lack of companionship, that’s what you’re really looking for – companionship. Don’t get us wrong, we know you’d gladly take a good relationship if you found one, with emphasis on the word “good.” But you’re not necessarily searching for one either. What you want is that 30 going on 13 feeling. You want to get out, have a blast, and tick off your bucket list items while you’re at it. You want events to go to after work and people to go with. You want to go on adventures that lead you to someone special enough to share more adventures with. 


Well, if that’s what you’re looking for – it’s Events & Adventures. We are a singles club, not a dating service, where 30 exciting activities are planned every single month. There is no pressure to date any of the other members, but at least you know everyone there is single if you wanted to. If you’re interested in making new friends, having a whole lot of fun, and potentially finding the one – click the link and get started with us today!